The very top resolution for 2024 from the statista poll is to save more money. I think this is a good reflection of people’s pain point.But I don’t think it’s a good resolution. In fact, there is another money resolution a little further down the list… to reduce spending on living expenses (e.g, food,, Read More
I missed the in-town Christmas.I missed the out-of-town Christmas.I missed Christmas with Mom.I missed New Year’s Eve. I was busy worshipping the porcelain god. It was probably food poisoning. No one else what sick, but a week later I still feel like I was kicked in the gut by a truck. We’ll never know., Read More
We are in the thick of the holiday season. Last minute gifts are being picked up.Plans have been made.Turkeys and sugar plums are at the ready. Take a deep breath.I think it’s time for a holiday pause. Take a second deep breath.In and out.Slowly. Imagine the family arriving for the festivities and instead of, Read More
I have been reading a lot of posts online about how people are spending more money this year than last Christmas. They are stressed about spending too much , gifts not being appreciated, cutting off all gift giving and going in debt. Everyone was piling on.I feel curdled just reading it all. I am, Read More
I went Christmas shopping with a friend last night. Our gift giving styles are very different.Compared to my family, she was buying a lot of presents. And let’s just say that she feels a lot more pressure to “get it right” when it comes to gift selection. That must suck the fun out of, Read More
If you are kind and share what you have, when you get more money you will share more. If you are graspy and greedy, when you have more money, your graspy greedy energy is amped up. Money exposes who you are. If you are an asshole, you will be a bigger asshole. If you, Read More
I read a beautiful, lyrical passage by Robin Wall Kimmerer, from Braiding Sweetgrass: indigenous Wisdom, Scientific Knowledge and The Teachings of Plants. “What would it be like, I wondered, to live with heightened sensitivity to the lives given for ours? To consider the trees in the Kleenex, the algae in the toothpaste, the oaks in, Read More
There are times when you need to slow down and rest.Times when a pause is healing to your soul. But when you are trying to attain a goal or reach out toward something you desire, err on the side of action. Even when it’s not pretty. Try something and fail.Then try something else. We, Read More
Several times this week I ran into people who I thought knew what I do for a living, who then asked me what I am doing these days. ?!? I have been doing this work for over a decade. I obviously have not made myself visible. I have not been vocal about what I, Read More
We have all been there. Difficult conversations about money. Who wants that argument?Or that snide look?Or that silent treatment? It’s easier to put it off. Stuff it down.Gloss over it. But every time you hold back on telling your truth, you make fear more important than love. Boom. You make fear more important than, Read More