A lot of people think that the law of attraction means that you sit in the lotus position and think of things you want and then you are magically showered with money and treasures and all the things you desire.
You just have to want hard enough.

I don’t think that’s how the law of attraction works.

You also have to take action.

It is awesome to think of things you want. In fact it’s vital to think of things you want.

Unless you spend energy deciding exactly what it is you want in your life, you end up taking whatever comes along.

And then you look back at your life and think of all the things you wish you had.

That’s very passive and perhaps a little sad.
And you sure aren’t going to live your best life waiting for things to happen to you.

But I have a suggestion.
After dreaming your dreams and unearthing your true desires, write those things down.

Then head in that direction.

You won’t know how to get there, but by taking some action, you set things in motion.
You will figure it out as you go along.

And when people see you headed a certain way, they will help you along the way.

Some people call it the universe working together to manifest your dreams.
Some people think it’s an exchange of energy.
And some people think our body language and micro-expressions give subconscious cues to other people.

Whatever your belief, it’s being out in the world taking action toward what you want that draws it to you.

It’s a little like asking for help at a store.
You can tell the salesperson, “No thanks, I’m just looking.”

Most of the time you do that because you are tired of being annoyed by a cloying salesperson.
But if you have a skilled salesperson, and you tell them what you are looking for, you are giving them a chance to help you find the exact pair of black boots you want.

You won’t know the last pair is in the stock room unless you reach out and ask.

You can call it divine guidance or you can call it logical or a bit of both.
Either way…

action is the rocket fuel in the direction of your dreams.

Hang onto your hats, ladies.

We tell ourselves that money is hard.
We tell ourselves that money is scarce and we need to do things we don’t want to in order to have enough money to live.

We tell ourselves there is never enough money.
And if we get more money that means someone else has less money.

Lies. All lies.

What I want to propose to you is that money is easy.
Money can flow into your life.
There is abundance everywhere around you.
Especially in this first world country we live in.
There is food available everywhere from convenience stores to grocery stores to our refrigerators.
There is clean, fresh air all around us.

There is enough money for everyone.

We tell ourselves the lies because our brains are trying to keep us safe.
But we can disbelieve the lies.
We can be kind and gentle and compassionate with ourselves and let the universe conspire to make things happen for us.

Money can be easy if you let it.
Or you can get all tangled up in the fear of what might happen at some later date.

You get to choose what to believe.
And what you believe determines the results in your life.

What do you choose?

There are lots of reasons to go shopping on Black Friday.
Some people do it as a fun annual activity with family or friends.
Some people are trying to get those loss leader deals.
Some people want to get their shopping finished so they can enjoy the holiday parties.

What I like to keep in mind is not to overspend by impulse shopping.
There.
I’ve said it.

Sometimes I overspend.

Just yesterday I went to Costco to buy the last bits for our Thanksgiving feast.
And I went rogue.
I went off -list.

I bought a lattice top apple pie.

Now, I know it was only $9.99 (I know! only $9.99!) and I don’t even like pie.
And I have plenty of money.
But it wasn’t a good spend because I bought it for the wrong reason.
I bought it because it was a great deal.

I bought it “just in case”.

Sure, I also rationalized it with the thought that if my Mother-in-law forgot to bring the four pies she is buying I wouldn’t have any dessert for the 13 people coming.

But when I hold that logic up to the light, it is faulty.
First of all, Mama Dot has NEVER forgotten to bring food in her life.  Just the opposite.  I have to keep her from bringing too much food.
And also, uh, I had already purchased a backup pumpkin pie.

My other rationalization was that once Mama Dot saw how I could get incredible pies she wouldn’t feel like she had to bring a bunch of pies for Thanksgiving next year.

But all of these rationalizations are just that. Excuses for my intellectual mind to ok the purchase by my emotional mind.

You impulse shop with your emotional mind and then look for a way to rationalize it with the reasoning part of your brain.

So, here’s what I USUALLY do to figure out on the spot if I am making a good purchase.

I ask myself if I am going off of my plan from a place of scarcity or abundance.
And what I am looking for here is a feeling.
I could say, “I have plenty of money. I am buying from abundance.”  But that’s not what I mean.
Having a lot of money is not a feeling.

What to ask:
Does it make me feel free and expansive to purchase it?
Or am I buying it because I might not be able to get it later?
Again, I’m talking about how you feel, not if you actually could or couldn’t get it later.

Mine was definitely a scarcity purchase.
I actually thought, “I don’t think they sell this pie other times of the year.”
Scarcity!

And I thought, “I don’t want to be caught without enough dessert.”

EVEN THOUGH THERE WILL ALREADY BE A THIRD OF A PIE PER PERSON.

With my purchase there will be half a pie per person,
after they have eaten turkey, ham and 10 sides.

I’d say that’s a big ‘ol scarcity purchase.

I’m not going to beat myself up about it.

But I’m aware.

And awareness is the first step in change.