Last week I took my own challenge to get more consciously curious.
I want to live a life that feels like magic.
To make it interesting I focused on anything that felt like a problem.
And then I asked myself, “What’s so bad about that?”
For example, my kitchen is torn up as we remodel, and cooking in dusty dirt is irritating.
“What’s so bad about that?”
Well, because it takes longer to do everything, and I don’t have all my tools. They are packed away in tubs.
“What’s so bad about that?”
I can’t eat the foods I want to eat because I don’t have the space to even use a cutting board.
“What’s so bad about that?”
I want to be healthy and feel good, and it just got exponentially harder to accomplish that and no end is in sight.
“What’s so bad about that?”
My daughter is in town, and she wanted to have a “month of health” with a lot of good cooking and now that is impossible.
“What’s so bad about that?”
She won’t ever come to visit me again if I promise a wonderful month and nothing I promised happens.
Well, now.
Good to know.
And is it true?
Recently a friend and coach said, “When I discovered life coaching 5 years ago, I felt like I’d discovered the closest thing to magic. I had been in self-development spaces for a while but something about this felt so different. Forward-focused, solution-oriented, and practical.”
That’s what I want to offer you today… the thought that
there is a practical way to have a life that feels like magic.
There are tools and a series of steps that take you on that journey.
The first one is clarity.
So I want to challenge us all this week to be engaged with the world with conscious curiosity.
Curiosity lends itself to clarity.
And it’s fun.
Why not start with fun?
Get curious.
This has been such a sad time.
My husband’s little Mama passed away last Saturday. She was 91 and in the last few months she developed fluid on her lungs which required heart valve surgery. That surgery never happened because that same night when she came home from the hospital, she tripped over the 30-foot oxygen tubing and broke a hip.
She broke the other hip several years ago (also in the kitchen) but that had such a different outcome. After that first hip break she was eating good nourishing food in the rehab facility and got a lot of interpersonal interaction and attention which fed her soul.
This time she never made it out of the rehab facility.
It is a very hard time for my father-in-law and my husband. Whitney’s (my husband’s) sister and brother have already passed, so he is the last living child.
We will miss the intensity of love she had for me, my husband and my children. It is incredible to be loved that hard. What an amazing gift that will be missed.
We will miss her culinary specialty… perfect toast.
And we will miss her arranging all the family get-togethers.
Whitney and Papa Jack planned a beautiful service and everything that goes along with it.
And here’s what I learned:
Be the friend or relative that shows up.
You don’t have to give a eulogy or even stay for the whole thing.
You don’t have to say anything profound.
Sometimes just being there is what grieving humans need.
It is the thing animals offer us humans… they lay with their head in our lap on tough days. They create calm just by leaning their bodies against us.
All without saying a word.
That’s what we can do too.
Lean in and look straight into their eyes.
And just be there.
Deep thanks to those who showed up on Saturday out of the blue and into my heart.