Let’s talk New Years Goals.

Have you already dropped your New Years Resolutions for 2025?
Then let’s talk goals.

My goal for the year is more connection.

That was my goal in 2024, and it has gone even more spectacularly than expected.

More, please.

(Feel free to connect with me this year. 😀 )

Obviously, you are going to have your own goal for this new year. 

I used to make my goals quantifiable and bite sized so I had some quick wins right off the bat. 

That might look like, “Contact two people each month whom I haven’t talked to in a while.” Or, “Text my kids each week.”

That quantifiable strategy worked well for a long time.
But I’ve gotten a little less achievement oriented and have become more feeling-centered. So now my goal is a feeling.

But whether I meet my goal(s) or not, my intention behind what I do makes each day richer.

My intention for the year – Play
Because I find solutions more easily when I play rather than work. And it’s more fun.

Maybe I could have more connection through play?!?
 

What are your goals for 2025?
What is your intention for 2025?

Is the thing you want the thing you need?

Sometimes it is.
I need my husband.
And I want him.

Win-win.

I also want to have my retirement fully funded.
But that’s not what I need.
I need the stress and the grind of saving the money, investing the money and riding the roller coaster ride of investing in the stock market.

I need the struggle.
I need to make mistakes and then make course corrections.

The struggle is what makes me proud of the way I have created my own destiny.
If I inherited the money… if I won the lottery… the journey is not the same.

I need the struggle that creates the container for my personal growth.
With the struggle I learn.

I’m investing in my character.

Is the thing you want the thing you need?

You know what the opposite of sitting with your feelings looks like…

Poor sleep. A thousand different ideas flying here, there and everywhere. Some with substance. Most without.
Busyness as a coping mechanism.

Everything and anything to avoid sitting with your feelings.

Sitting with your feelings is the opposite.

It looks like sitting.
But you are feeling all the feelings.
Without judgment.
Only curiosity and compassion.

You feel the sensations in your body.
And they pass.

It’s a painful and glorious part of the human experience.

Try it the next time you feel overwhelmed or tumultuous or frightened.

Just sitting and feeling.

And releasing.

And then try it the next time you feel exuberant or joyful or happy.
Take the opportunity to sit and feel the good feelings.
Explore the contrast.

Try it right now.
 It’s delicious!