It’s the rules that hurt.

It’s the rules that hurt.

I had a friend tell me that she doesn’t have as many friends as she thought she had.

She has reached out and they have moved on to new jobs or new interests or new friends.
No time for her.

One in particular just decided she didn’t feel like spending time with her anymore. She just wasn’t interested.

It tore my heart to see her in such pain. She is such a sweetheart.

But what is hurting her is the rule she has in her head that friendships should stay the same.
And the rule that people should like you back as much as you like them.

No one has done anything cruel to her on purpose.
No laws have been broken.

But the rules we have about how things should be are what cause us emotional pain.

Sometimes I like to break rules.

Maybe the new rule is that people are allowed to like who they like and spend time with whoever they want to spend time with. 

And we can still love them just as much.

Because we are the ones who feel the love when we love someone.

What rules are causing you pain?