Willing to be wrong

The best skill for personal growth is being willing to be wrong.
Not just the best skill, but a necessary skill for personal growth.

Now, your brain might be saying, “Yes. I am always willing to accept that I am wrong if you show it to me. Prove to me I am wrong and I will happily concede.”

But how often does that happen?

Usually someone challenges what you are saying, and the natural human response is to push back and make your case.

“Because anyone with any common sense knows I am right!”

Plus, most of the time when someone thinks you are wrong, they don’t tell you.
They just think it.

You don’t get the chance to be willing to be wrong.

If you are right all the time, there is no growth.

And get this; you are most likely to be wrong about the things you are most sure about.

At least when it comes to what is causing you emotional pain.

When my friend Sadie was mad at her boyfriend because he dumped her, she was pissed. Because he was wrong to dump her.
We have all felt that way.

And then most of us realize that it was the best thing that could have happened to us.

So long Romeo!

My friend Joanna was passed over for a job she knew she was more than qualified for, so she felt hurt and overlooked.
We have all felt hurt.
But she was willing to explore the thought that she was wrong about that job being the perfect fit for her.
That was mind-blowing for her.
It changed who she thought she should be.

You must be willing to blow up your own “truths” to   become the next version of yourself.

Try this: The next time you are in emotional pain, write down what is unjust, then rewrite it with the word should in front of it.

Then let your brain relax and fiddle around and find the truth in that statement.

Example: My mother shouldn’t be losing her mind.
                My mother SHOULD be losing her mind.  
                Truth: We all age in our own ways.

What do you know for sure that you are you willing to disbelieve?